“I am never
upset for the reason I think.” Gerald Jampolsky
experienced misunderstanding of his mission, rejection by those be ministered
to, betrayal and denial by his chosen disciples.Even when we start in good faith in our
relationships, we meet disappointment in the response of others.Jesus gives us the example of acceptance and
we can respond in that way, we need to honor our own very human emotional
response. Understandably we are
upset.The primary feelings are anger,
hurt, and desire for revenge and resentment.These may lead to withdrawal and termination of the relationship.
blame ourselves or the other person rather than seeking to understand.If we go to self-blame by saying “I deserved
this” or “I made a stupid choice of friends,” we damage our own sense of
worth.If we blame and judge the other
person, we move into cynicism and loss of trust.The underlying emotion is fear.
seek to understand others and their behaviors, we begin with
self-affirmation.Jesus was strengthened
by the inner assurance that he was doing God’s will.He was able to leave the judging and
punishing in God’s hands.We can learn
to say “This behavior is their problem.I am sad but not defeated or disillusioned.”
if I feel hurt or angry, I will take care of my upset feelings by giving myself
an extra helping of loving thoughts.
“Journey to Jerusalem”
written by Martha Wiglesworth