“I’m OK, you’re OK, it’s OK is a formula for inner
if we don’t understand them, we can choose to accept others as they are.We talked earlier about self-acceptance.What gets in the way of extending this to
others is our own need for everything to be perfect, or at least to conform to
our way of thinking.
we are attached to having something a certain way, better than it already is,
we are engaged in a losing battle.Rather than being content and grateful for what we have, we are focused
on what’s wrong and our need to fix it.We are dissatisfied, discontent, and pulled away from our goal of being
kind and gentle.” Carlson
can choose being kind and appreciative rather than being “right”.The way to positive feelings is to focus on a
peaceful interaction that leaves everybody feeling good.
does not mean we have to compromise with our best.It is just that we are overly attached to our
way and focused on what’s wrong.While
there may be a better way to do something, this doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy and
appreciate the way things are.We can
still believe what we believe and stand up for it.It’s only when we insist that others agree
with us that we pay a price in inner tranquility.
I will look for one opportunity to accept something I don’t like.
“Journey to Jerusalem”
written by Martha Wiglesworth